Consider using a slightly different language when talking about your inner life as you explore the path of meditation: People who take vows of celibacy and poverty have a slightly different approach to meditation than people who live in the world. If you are a person with a job and family, and you love people, practicing detachment can be like taking medication for an illness you don't have. Practicing alienation from yourself can result in loneliness, lack of joy, and depression.
Use the approach that works the best for you, whatever combination of detachment and attachment works best in each given moment.
Make up your own mixture, suited to your nature and life path. Be aware of how you are choosing.
stillness - - - rest
focus - - - expand
clear the mind - - - rejoice
bring mind back - - - continue
block distractions - - - welcome
quiet the mind - - - bring it on
fixity - - - flow
detach - - - engage
concentrate - - - expand
judgy - - - tender
slow down - - - enjoy speed
stoppage - - - Journey
restrain - - - set free
monkey mind - - - exploring mind distance - - - intimacy